It depends if you want a bus monitor or a logic analyzer. If you just want to see the signals on the address pins, something like
this probe might work to get to the signals easily. Otherwise, you could look at a VXI bus analyzer such as those offered by VMEtro.
You could also try consecutive reads into A16 space where the configuration registers for your device should reside. You can do this even if the device doesn't show up after Resman by opening a session to MEMACC and doing a read. This might be an easier way to see if the device is sporadically not responding to accesses.
Have you verified that the controller is working properly by swapping out other controllers?