It seems that the TNT is not handshaking command bytes (hence the timeout when you tried to send it the command by addressing it to listen). Even though dittohead checked over it, you might look at your initialization code more closely. One line that I was curious about was:
TNT4882[R_auxmr]=F_hldi;
This puts the TNT4882 into an RFD holdoff state, which I believe will hold it in the ANRS state (meaning that the chip will not handshake your MLA3 command byte in, I believe). Is there any reason this line is in there?
Also, if you haven't seen the chip manual, it's very helpful (especially chapter 4) in giving initialization pseudo-code. The link is here:
TNT4882 Manual.
Scott B.
GPIB Software
National Instruments